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Saturday, January 11, 2014
There were times when when our time was categorised in two buckets - Free time or Busy time.
Times have changed, so has classification of time, I guess. Now, it has taken many many forms. Broadly, I think, it can be classified as under :
- Money time
- Others’ time
- Our time
- Me time
Money time : Time we spend in office, working or otherwise. I know some of you will say you love your job, don’t work for money and all that. But, largely, for most of us, Office time is money time.
Others’ time : Time which you spend with someone else but may not necessarily enjoy but others do.
Spouse time : Well, married folks would understand this. It is that part of the time which
you spend out of love (or fear). A friend says, Dinner with In-laws could be one such
Kids’ time : This is when your kids drag you to do something which they enjoy but you
Family time : Attending a cousin’s marriage, isn’t it?
PS: If you also start enjoying, this is no more Others’ time but Our time. Office parties, for most of us, are part of money time.
Me time : Time which you spend on your own for your own, doing what you like which doesn’t involve anyone else. This could be running, listening to music with earplugs on, writing, painting etc.
Our time : Together time, with friends, family, spouse, kids, which all of you equally enjoy. A family vacation, watching a movie together.
And, Me time and Our time is what we strive to maximise. There is also a tussle between Me time and Our time, we regret more if Me time comes at the expense of Our time.
Thanks for your time!Tweet
Monday, December 30, 2013
You may have heard of this concept called SMART which speaks about how all your goals should be SMART i.e. Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and TimeBound. I am sure there must be a lot of research and wisdom behind this, yet, for once, I would urge if we can forget this while making our New Year Resolutions - if at all we intend to make some resolutions.Most of us get bogged down by this quantifiable or measurable thing too much. Try remembering a resolution where you haven’t tagged it to a metric, no?
I just read someone boasting on twitter that he reads 20 books a month. I am fine, that’s no small feat but how about enjoying and imbibing as many books as you feel like instead of ‘finishing 20 books by June 2014’ as your goal. How about leaving a book halfway just because you didn't like instead of trying finishing the book to attain a count.
I even know of people who resolve that I shall visit at least 4 new towns this year. Come on, rather why not just enjoy your travel or just roam around. You may find many a interesting things in your town only. Why this tick in the box approach of visiting towns!
How about learning something new as a resolution? Yes, why not. But why get into the trap of measuring it, isn't learning a continuous process? A youtube video, Khan Academy, Coursera - so many learning tools available, just login whenever and wherever you feel like. Why keep a tab that I took 9 french lessons this year?
Most overrated new year resolution seem to be "I shall spend more time with family, at least 3 vacations this year are a must". Family time doesn't require a resolution, it should come naturally and why is there a need to tie it down to number of vacations or counting how many weekends you spend together.
So, this year, forget SMART but make some Stupid resolutions and then forget them. And, if you really like this concept, why make new year resolutions at all - just enjoy this year, this moment, every moment.Tweet
Saturday, November 23, 2013
Marc Driscoll, HR Head of PWC, says not every Indian is keen to take a break from work. "One in four employees here do not avail leaves. This is crazy".
This actually may be the case in India, people here still feel guilty when they avail leaves. I know of many people who actually fake illness sometimes even illness of their family members, kids, to take a leave which they are entitled to. This is really sick, but happens frequently.
Here I list some of the possible reasons as to Why Indians may not be taking enough leaves.
I think fear of Boss could be the first and foremost reason for such behavior. "So much work pending, how can I even ask Boss that I need a leave". Being present for more days in office is yet seen as being more productive, at least in some organisations, by some Bosses.
I even see lack of passion or a hobby as a reason to not think of taking leave. "what the hell will I do on a leave, rather do some work only".
Free Coffee, AC and may be even Lunch. May sound silly yet may be the reason for some.
Vacations cost, yes. Indian working middle class may also think that even if they take leaves, they unnecessarily end up spending money on vacation, so better not take leave only.
Bachelors, and people starting their career. "Dude, first 10 years of my career I will slog, make money and then enjoy rest of the life, may even retire at 40". So for a distant, unseen future, they are spoiling their present by not taking leaves.
It's not that it is only about the employees, even some organisations allow people to accumulate their leaves and sometimes en-cash them for money. This actually means a person is losing on cash when he takes a leave. So, taking a leave may mean losing out on cash.
There may be more reasons for people not taking leave but all I can see there are infinite reasons for taking that leave, try it.
Saturday, October 19, 2013
Yes, I do watch Big Boss 7. Before you judge me or unfollow, keep your hand on the heart and tell me, don’t you watch panel discussions or debates on news channels? Trust me, Big Boss has better cameras, sound systems and more natural settings. Even the contestants are better looking, less pretentious and comparatively more intelligent than most of the panelists on the news channels. And, Big Boss, the character, is more assertive and less rude than Arnab. Got It.
Ok, here are some very important or not so important life-lessons from the Big Boss 7.
No one fails in life. You may fail in one area or field that doesn't mean you are a failure; all you need to do is to find the right field or area to play. How else would you explain Tanisha getting popular on Big Boss 7.
There is nothing called heaven or hell, all it takes is one bad guy to make even heaven, a hell. Let’s not talk about Arman Kohli anymore.
Lack of food can bring the worst out of you. Maslow, you were right about our basic needs. Most of the fights between inmates happen because of food or lack of it only.
Coffee can really get addictive. Yes. When they asked Rajat Rawail to make a wish, he said ‘I want to meet my daughter or get me some coffee’.
There may be people who are more talented, good looking or better actors but if public likes a dude; he gets to play the Hero. Apologies to all Salman Khan fans.
You can make anyone, do anything, you just need to pay the right price. What else can make a Bollywood actor / actress clean toilets on a national TV or bathe in cow-dung.
If you leave people to play a game, they will play Politics. They may hate it but do it all the time. And, all think that everyone else except them is playing politics.
When there are three or more close friends, and two of them fall in love with each other, rest start hating the couple without any reason. People may love birds but hate love-birds.
In Big Boss, there are no permanent friends or foes, only permanent interests.
Finally, in Big Boss or life, be mindful of what you do or say, everything is being watched and can be used against you.
Keep watching and learning.Tweet
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